Secret Ingredients

Barataria has been too intense lately.  That’s no good as we head into Full Blown Summer, the period of time defined by no school for kids.  It’s time to have some fun.

I love to cook, but I don’t follow recipes.  I work on a sense of balance between the five flavors, and yes there are five if you count umami.  The techniques I use run between East Asian stir-fry, Indian masalas, French saucery, and just a touch of American excess.  I work with whatever looks good at the market or is on sale.  The ingredients I rely on include these “secrets”, my special thangs that round out the tastes and achieve a special balance.

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Reluctant Spring

Dark clouds pass quickly overhead, rolling and spreading as if angry.  Invisible strings pull the air and suck the energy out of small human plans, charging life with dark cold winds.  They have surprise on their side because just two days before it was bright and sticky hot, a lazy weekend that now seems like nothing more than a set-up for a sick joke.

Yet in those moments of sun there has been time to get together with friends in a casual summer wander.  Most have come with a shared secret. “I have this project I’m working on, don’t tell anyone.”  Bright eyes push ahead a little stutter, a speech being practiced for when the real pitch-day comes.  In front of us is something new, a craft moving through the art of being perfected.  We talk about plans, possibilities, work and energy.  Then, eventually, a few clouds roll into the conversation – Europe, stalling employment, huge banks losing tons of money, and the rigged stock market.  They suck the energy out of the moment and set aside the craft and plans.

This is the reluctant Spring that arrived early but can’t stay with us.

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Union

Memorial Day started as a commemoration of the hundreds of thousands killed in our Civil War.  It was a war that started because the nation could not tolerate being half free and half slave-owning any longer.  What won the day was one nation, once assembled, which could never pull apart.  Perpetual Union is now sanctified in blood and taken as a given.

While we pause to remember the sacrifices of those who came before us, Europe is deep into their own process for understanding what Union means to them.  It has been in the works for perhaps 200 years, or 2,000 if you want to start with Rome.  The bloodshed has been grave and terrible.

Does it really come down to stark choices like this for Europe?

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Memorial Day in Oakland Cemetery

The scraggly oak trees intertwine their branches in a tall ceiling that shades the entire drive. Here, the appropriate view of the eternal isn’t blue and bright, but sheltered and close to the ground.  The rows of marble and granite dazzled by bright flowers have their own quiet redemption as the slow speed limit and a gentle wave from each passerby gives the setting grace.

This is Oakland Cemetery, Saint Paul’s municipal cemetery, founded in 1853.

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Next Generation’s Struggle

This is a dialogue with my daughter Thryn Hare (Kathryn).  Thryn has been named one of OutFront’s “25 leaders under 25”, a strong activist for Gay / Lesbian / Transgender rights at only 15 years old.  I couldn’t be more proud.

I should start by asking what it was like to talk to me about who you felt you were and how difficult it was.  I know it took you some time.  Did you think I might reject you for it?  What was going through your mind?

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